Thank you to everyone who reached out, commented here, telephoned, etc. I’m sure you’ll understand that I’m unable to respond to each of you personally, but rest assured, I have read every word. Multiple times.
In those first days, in the middle of the night, when I was awake, I read the posts and comments over and over because they gave me great comfort.
I read Dwight’s FB timeline from the very beginning and it brought back some good memories; for the first time I’m actually *thankful* for social media.
Life is so strange and different right now, I’m trying to figure so many things out. I’m probably going to be taking a SM break, but I’d like to make some serious points before I make myself scarce:
1. Get healthy.
That includes regular checkups and the tests recommended at certain ages (mammogram, prostate, etc). You never know when there may be a hidden (for now) problem.
Dwight passed from an apparent heart attack. There were no signs, but he also hadn’t had a checkup in years. You just never know, try to be proactive.
2. Life Insurance, Wills, Last Wishes.
Adult up and talk about these things and make some plans. We did some of it, some of it we didn’t. Thankfully, I have experience with wearing big-girl panties & will get through the additional hoops & hassles, but not having to do so would have been better.
3. Pictures.
For crying out loud, take pictures, professional ones. Sure, that’s not a new message from me, but take it from me now that I’m *living* it.
TAKE.ALL.THE.PICTURES.!!!
I can’t tell you the supreme level of thanks I have for the number of wall portraits of my beloved. There are six. 3 of him (taken by me) and 3 of us (taken by the Linczaks). Plus a dozen 8x12s because I wanted ALL the prints from our couples session. They’re spread out on my kitchen counter and I gaze at them multiple times a day. I talk to the ones on the wall. For now, they’re comfort to my grieving heart and I can’t begin to express the depth of gratitude I have that they exist.